10 week private program
Self-Mastery Coaching (10 Week Program)
For people who have done the recovery work and now want the thing recovery alone does not give you: to become someone manipulation cannot get a handle on. Online, worldwide, $1,288.
Healing is the floor, not the ceiling.
There is a point in recovery where the crisis ends and something quieter takes its place. You are stable. You are out. The flashbacks have mostly stopped. And you realise that not being in pain is not the same as having a life you are actually leading.
There is also a quiet fear most people do not say out loud: what if I do this again? What if the next one is charming too, and I do not see it either.
This program answers both. It is the difference between avoiding harm and building the kind of self that harm cannot easily find a handle on.
- Investment
- $1,288
- Length
- 10 weeks, ten private sessions
- Format
- One to one, online, in your timezone
- Best after
- The acute recovery phase is behind you
What we build
Regulation as a baseline, not a rescue tool
In recovery you learn to calm your nervous system down. Here you build a system that does not spike in the first place, so regulation stops being something you reach for in emergencies.
Reading people accurately
Not paranoia, and not the habit of calling everyone difficult a narcissist. Real pattern literacy: noticing incongruence early, testing it calmly, and deciding what you do about it.
Standards that hold under pressure
Anyone can hold a boundary with someone they do not care about. We build standards that hold with the people you love, when it costs you something.
Self-trust after it was broken
Abuse teaches you to override your own signal. This rebuilds the loop: you notice something, you believe yourself, you act on it. Without that, everything else is technique.
Identity that is not built on the recovery
There is a trap where surviving becomes the whole personality. This is the work of building a self that is defined by what you are for, not what you escaped.
Relationship range
Choosing well, moving toward people without losing yourself, and being close to someone without disappearing into them.
RENEW-S
This is the S.
The RENEW Method takes you through recognising the pattern, establishing safety, naming your needs, exiting the conditioning, and writing self-led standards. That is recovery, and it is complete on its own.
Self-Mastery is the sixth step: step into self-mastery. You stop managing damage and start building range. Same path, next stretch of road.
Questions about Self-Mastery
What does the Self-Mastery program cost?
The program is $1,288 for ten weeks of private, one to one online coaching.
How is this different from the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery program?
Recovery repairs damage. Self-Mastery builds range. The 8 week recovery program is about breaking the trauma bond, ending self-blame and getting stable. This program assumes that work is done, and goes after the thing recovery alone does not give you: a self that manipulation cannot get a handle on. Different starting point, different goal.
Do I have to do the recovery program first?
Not necessarily, but you do need to be genuinely out of the acute phase. If you are still in contact and destabilised, still breaking no contact, or still in the raw stage, this program will not land and I will say so on the fit call. Starting here when you need recovery first wastes your money and your time.
Is this only for people who were abused?
No. Most clients come through the recovery work, but the program stands on its own for anyone who wants to build self-leadership, accurate people-reading, and standards that hold. The abuse context sharpens it; it is not a requirement.
What does "unhookable" actually mean?
It does not mean nothing gets to you, and it does not mean becoming cold. It means the specific handles manipulation reaches for, guilt, obligation, fear, the need to be seen as good, are no longer loose. You can be moved by people without being steered by them.
Is this therapy?
No. This is coaching. I am not a licensed clinician and I do not diagnose or treat mental health conditions. If clinical care is what you need, that comes first.
Coaching is not therapy and is not a substitute for medical or psychiatric care. If you are in crisis, please use the support resources on this site or contact your local emergency services.
Enrolment
Already had your fit call?
Then you can enrol in Self-Mastery here. If we have not spoken yet, please book the free fit call first. I want to be sure this is the right thing for you before you pay for it.
Need to spread the cost? A 4 payments of $322 plan is available. Ask me on your fit call and I will send you a payment plan link set up for exactly that number of payments, so it stops when it should.
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Not spoken with me yet? Book the free fit call first.
If you are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. More support resources, including UK, Canada and Australia, are here.
Become the person no one can get a handle on.
Book a free, private fit call. We will look at where you actually are and whether this is the right next step, or whether recovery work should come first.
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