Recover from narcissistic abuse.Then become the person no narcissist can ever hook again.
Private, online recovery coaching for people rebuilding after narcissistic and emotional abuse. Wherever you are in the world.
You are not confused. You are recovering from something that was designed to confuse you.
You might be here because:
If any of that landed, you are exactly where you need to be.
You keep replaying conversations, trying to find the sentence that would have made it all okay.
You went no contact, and somehow you still miss them.
Everyone says "just leave," but the pull back is physical, not logical.
You second-guess your own memory, because for years someone rewrote it for you.
You feel like a different person than you were before them, and you want yourself back.
The relationship is over, but your nervous system never got the message.
- You are too sensitive.
- You are crazy.
- You are too much.
- You are the problem.
You were conditioned.
Conditioning can be undone.
Recovery is not "getting over it." It is five steps, in order.
The RENEW Method is a five step path from narcissistic abuse recovery to self-leadership. Most people try to heal in the wrong sequence, rebuilding self-worth while the nervous system is still in survival mode, or going no contact without understanding why they keep breaking it. RENEW works in the order your mind and body actually heal.
Recognize the abuse pattern
You learn to see what happened for what it was: the cycle, the gaslighting, the trauma bond, the discard. When you can name the pattern, you stop blaming yourself for not leaving sooner. Recognition is where the self-blame ends.
Establish personal safety
We end the chaos loop. Real no contact where possible, grey rock where it is not, and simple nervous system tools so you stop living in fight or flight. Nothing else holds until this is in place.
Name your needs and values
You reconnect with what you actually feel, want, and stand for, after years of it being overwritten. This is where your own voice comes back.
Exit harmful conditioning
We release the beliefs and reflexes the abuse trained into you, so the old programming stops quietly running your choices, your relationships, and your self-talk.
Write self-led standards
You set the standards that run your life and your relationships from here. Clear, non-negotiable, and yours. This is the line no one gets to talk you out of again.
This is where recovery becomes self-leadership. The goal is not just to heal. It is to become someone abuse can never find a handle on again.
About me
I have been where you are standing.
I am Vishnu Ra. I know what it is like to have your reality constantly rewritten by someone you trusted. I walked the long, confusing path out of an emotionally abusive dynamic, navigating the trauma bond and the shattered sense of self that follows.
I am a certified narcissistic abuse recovery coach, trained in somatic healing and nervous system regulation. I work with practical, body-based tools and fierce boundary setting. The RENEW Method is the path I walked myself, and it is the one I now walk with clients.
Coaching with me is direct, private, and paced to you. I will not diagnose the person who hurt you from a distance, promise to fix you in a fixed number of sessions, or tell you every difficult person is a narcissist. I will help you get free, and stay free.
Three ways to begin.
Single Session
For you if: you need clarity on one situation, now, before you commit to anything bigger.
Format
One private 60 minute session, online.
$200
Book a sessionNarcissistic Abuse Recovery
For you if: you are out, or getting out, and you are ready to break the trauma bond and rebuild.
Format
8 week private program, online, weekly calls plus ongoing support.
$888
Start recoverySelf-Mastery
For you if: the abuse is behind you and you want to become genuinely unshakeable.
Format
10 week private program, online, deep nervous system rewiring.
$1,288
Begin self-masteryNot sure which fits? Book a free fit call and we will find out together.
Book a free fit callPeople who found their way back.
Before working with Vishnu, I was second-guessing everything. I did not know which thoughts were mine and which were planted by my ex. The RENEW method gave me a roadmap when I felt completely lost. I finally feel like myself again, but stronger.
I had gone no contact three times and kept breaking it. It felt like an addiction. Understanding the trauma bond and regulating my nervous system changed everything. It was not just talk therapy, it was actionable steps to get my power back.
Vishnu does not just listen, he equips you. Setting boundaries used to make me feel physically sick. Now they are non-negotiable standards. The Self-Mastery program is exactly that, mastery over your own life.
Questions people ask before they book
What is narcissistic abuse recovery coaching?
Narcissistic abuse recovery coaching is structured, forward-looking support for people rebuilding after a relationship with someone who used manipulation, gaslighting or coercive control. It is practical work: understanding what happened to you, breaking the trauma bond, regulating your nervous system, and setting standards that hold. Coaching is not therapy, and it does not diagnose or treat mental illness.
How is coaching different from therapy?
Therapy is clinical treatment, delivered by a licensed professional, often focused on diagnosing and treating mental health conditions and processing the past. Coaching is unlicensed, non-clinical, and focused on where you are now and where you are going. Many clients do both. If you are dealing with active trauma symptoms, self-harm risk, or a diagnosable condition, therapy comes first, and I will say so directly.
Do you work with men as well as women?
Yes. Narcissistic and emotional abuse is not gendered, and men are routinely disbelieved when they name it. I work with men and women, in any kind of relationship: partners, parents, family members, and workplaces.
How long does it take to recover from narcissistic abuse?
There is no fixed timeline, and anyone who promises you one is selling something. What I can say is that the sequence matters more than the speed. Most people stall because they try to rebuild self-worth while their nervous system is still in survival mode. The RENEW Method works in the order recovery actually happens, and the 8 week Narcissistic Abuse Recovery program is built around that sequence.
What if I am still in contact with them, or cannot go no contact?
That is common, and it is not a failure. Co-parenting, shared finances, family, and work all make full no contact impossible for many people. We use grey rock, structured communication, and nervous system tools instead. Safety and stability come first, whatever your situation allows.
Where are you based, and can we work together from my country?
All coaching is online and private, so we work together wherever you are. Clients join from the US, UK, Canada, Australia, Europe and beyond. Sessions are scheduled in your timezone.
If you are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency services. In the US, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. More support resources, including UK, Canada and Australia, are here.
You do not have to figure this out alone.
Book a free, private fit call. We will talk about where you are, what you need, and whether working together makes sense. No pressure, no pitch.
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